Online Marriage Records In the beginning, I. was self-medicating (drinking), but I. eventually went to a doctor and did some intense therapy to help me recover from the pain. Although I. started dating again, it wasn’t for me. So, instead, I. focused on myself – prayed and write down my feelings. I. even lost weight. Over time, people who chose him over me realized that his words didn’t match his actions. I. am better without him in my life.