What Can A. Person Do To Survive A. Divorce After A. 10+ Year Marriage Falls Apart?

I was married to the same woman for 23 years until she walked out. I. blamed myself initially but realized she had poisoned our friends against me, taking her side on things. I. was an outcast with our friends, but instead of wallowing in pain, I. did some soul searching to find out what happened in our marriage and how I. was responsible for it for falling apart. I. realized my mistakes, and I. sleep better today than I. did those first few months. I. was a good husband, but my ex-wife wanted things her way or no way.
Once I. realized it, I. no longer felt the pain of the loss. I. was just enjoying my newfound freedom and life. I. even went back to school to earn a degree at my age.
Scott Lance


  • Counseling is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Look at the situation to determine why she was unhappy, but you were. And, when you do decide to fall for someone again, make sure it’s with someone you can truly connect with.

  • I understand what you’re going through. Getting divorced after being with someone for so long is an emotional rollercoaster. To survive myself, I am talking to a therapist as often as I can. I never advocated for something like this before my divorce, but realize that therapy isn’t as bad as one makes it out to be. I’m also spending my time meditating, which eases the pain that I feel. I also try not to blame myself fully because it takes two people, even though he left me for someone else. Time will get a person through a divorce of more than 20 years.

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